The Dark Side of Entrepreneurship (& How to Love Every Part of The Journey)

Hey and welcome to episode 15 of the Free and Fearless podcast. I hope you’re having a great week, and are ready to hear some harsh truths about entrepreneurship because that’s what I’m going to talk about today.

Tune into the episode below:

Show Notes:

  • [1:37] Why entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone
  • [4:16] How to walk the path alone
  • [6:56] Challenging moments you’ll experience as an entrepreneur
  • [8:27] The 1000 days rule
  • [10:47] How starting from the bottom shapes your mindset
  • [11:57] Example of a badass bestselling author who was once broke
  • [13:50] My advice to anyone who wants to live life on their own terms

Transcript

I won’t mention anything spiritual, I won’t talk about the different business models, about alignment, about creating your dream business or anything like that.

我将绝对真实,多一些人ple might like. But here’s the thing – we can keep talking about the benefits of starting your business, of the different ways to make money online. I can keep sharing success stories of business owners on my blog, and I can keep sharing what I learn along the way and how your business income allows you to build an amazing lifestyle.

But whatever you try, there comes a moment when it gets hard.

Even if you have the discipline, even if you think you are prepared, even if you have a community and enough support, even if you take courses, have coaches and are ready to invest.

No matter what, there is a certain point where it gets unpleasant. That’s when most people give up. If not then, many give up at the next level, when it gets even harder.

I’ve always believed that life is a series of problems. You’re doing well when you are solving the problems you’ve chosen.

If you’re starting or growing a business, you’ve chosen this. You’ve taken the decision to deal with all that comes with it. As it is with anything else in life, there will be aspects of it that you won’t enjoy. There will be periods that nothing could prepare you for, and there will be many, many reasons for you to give up.

这就是为什么企业家并不适合所有人的原因。我知道更多businesses than ever were started during the pandemic,并且每个人都在家,准备学习和投资,这似乎很容易。

您可能会看到所有这些人都在压碎它,在第一年就赚了很多钱,即使他们只是成为一名教练,也可以签下高价客户。我也看过这个。

But the pandemic will be over, a new normal will be here, and these new business owners will have to adjust all over again. Their business isn’t yet sustainable.

One good month doesn’t mean you will sleep peacefully knowing there’s income coming for the rest of the year. And whenever I talk about business, even though I don’t earn much compared to many others, I always mean creating a freaking recession-proof business. One that is exactly how you like it, which brings you the ultimate satisfaction on a daily basis, which is literally your dream business and which allows you to have the lifestyle you desire.

So today, I’m going to discuss the dark side of entrepreneurship.

Dark doesn’t need to mean bad. It’s just not easy. But I believe that it’s necessary to build the skills that will help you deal with negativity from others, manage the money you’re about to make, develop the mindset that will allow you to stay sane and still enjoy the journey when your business isn’t growing, or – when it is growing. Because both of these can drive you crazy in ways you can’t imagine.

You’ll Be Lonely Before You’re an Entrepreneur

5 Types of Entrepreneurial Stress & How to Manage Each

You might have many friends. You might even have one of those close family relationships where every relative supports you no matter what.

您可能会迅速雇用人员,甚至尝试建立一个团队。

但是为此做好准备,因为这是一个事实:您会独自一人。

It will just be you, late nights of hard work (for months and years!), not seeing understanding in other people’s eyes and being perceived as someone hustling on a hobby that will never become something more.

The lack of understanding can’t stop you, though. So if you let it, you still haven’t realized a few things.

For instance,we live in a non-understanding world, and that’s okay. Everyone’s looking at things from a different angle. And because one thing is sure and it’s that you’re different, expecting them to understand the unconventional way of living you’re doing isn’t realistic.

然后,这是事实that other people will interfere if you share your vision, and maybe that’s whyyou’re better off keeping your goals to yourself. At least until you see results.

I think that you don’t actually needsupport on your entrepreneurial journey. It’s all an outer factor. And the real qualities that will one day make you an independent worker having control over your life, are within you. Other people have nothing to do with that, and that actually makes the process easier.

Be okay with being alone. Don’t overthink it. Love the solitude when it’s just you, your laptop, and the doubts and confusion, as you’ll have no idea where this might take you and how long it will take.

一件事是肯定的。这将比您为您计划的平均生活更好。

Also, you have all it takes to achieve it. To be patient enough to give it years. To be mentally strong to handle the lack of understanding and support. And realistic enough to let go of expecting others to have anything to do with this, or expecting easy solutions to come out of nowhere.

In my hardest moments, even though I had people wanting to show support, trying to take me and my work seriously, and wanting to help, that had little to do withthe transformation going on in my mind.

It’s a path you walk alone, and that’s how it should be. Cause once you walk it long enough, the world is yours.

In my loneliest moments,it was just me and my writing, then blogging and then the many other forms of content creation related to my business. Writing is my passion, so it’s also all I needed to stay sane and keep going.

You’ll Be Stressed Before You’re an Entrepreneur

The real face of entrepreneurship includes some or all of the following moments (at any stage of your self-development journey and business creation):

  • teaching yourself what internet marketing is all about, learning how to create and edit audio or video for a product you’re working on, because you can’t afford to hire an expert;
  • falling asleep thinking about the next steps you should take;
  • waking up and opening the laptop;
  • answering emails while spending time with family or friends, and having to deal with tech issues or customer support while on a vacation;
  • never actually having some time off of your side hustle for a year or two;
  • not knowing if you’ll make it or not;
  • 开始认为,如果您很快没有赚更多的钱,就需要再次获得一份真正的工作;
  • worrying about all kinds of stuff that normal people don’t need to worry about;
  • 没有什么可以清除您的思想来享受另一项活动的事情 - 您只需要专注于项目,因为这是您之后的财务自由的基础,这将使您的一生扭转;
  • waking up without a smile on your face, but knowing it’s all for a good cause;
  • 不喜欢外面的天气,因为您需要在里面阅读有关您从未想过要学习的数字技能的信息;
  • turning branding, networking and a few other activities into a free time thing – meaning, something you do whenever you can.

The time all this is taking is stressful too.

There’s something calledthe 1000 days rulein business. And it says that ‘you’ll be doing worse than you were at your job for 1000 days after you start your muse business’.

Also, each of your customers is now your boss. Or at least that’s how you should treat them. They are helping you pay your rent or mortgage. Without them, you’ve got nothing and might need to get back to your old life which will make you miserable.

Having so many bosses is stressful. You often need to be available 24/7, depending on the kind of work you do. To answer the same questions over and over again (until you find ways to automate the process and skip the repetitive tasks). To be asked to do more than what you’re being paid for. And much more.

That’s another level of stress and you can handle it. Because the stress of not designing a life on your own terms is worse for people like me and you.

There are also business mistakes you can make that can make you broke.

How do we handle that?

通过绝对确定我们不是从事常规工作的工作,拼命寻求the freedom only a lifestyle business can provide, and knowing we have something we love doing and there is a way to make money online and help people with it at the same time.

Your coffee won’t taste as good in the morning knowing there’s something to fix on your website that’s preventing payments from happening smoothly. And it might take hours of research to find out what the problem is.

You won’t enjoy shopping anymore, knowing how important every dollar is, how hard it is to earn online, and planning what better things you can invest in.

When others around you are talking about things from daily life, what’s going on in the world, or their next trip, you’ll be validating business ideas in your mind, trying not to lose hope and reminding yourself it’s exactly what all other entrepreneurs have done back in the days.

But guess what?

That’s what will make you one of them. All these little things that stress you out now, and that will beyour stressors for a long time, are how the mindset of an entrepreneur is shaped. And it’s a beautiful process, if you ask me.

Read also:5 Types of Entrepreneurial Stress & How to Manage Each

You’ll Be Broke Before You’re an Entrepreneur

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Ready to be broke?

Let’s talk about having less money than you’ve ever had before.

First things first, though. Some people create a brand online without even realizing, be it a YouTube channel that gets many views in the first weeks, a post that goes viral, or landing a client that pays all the bills and you don’t need much else in the beginning.

These people start making money at a young age, or can quickly leave their 9 to 5 and do that full-time. And that’s okay.

But that’s not me. It’s not you. It’s not Tony Robbins, Mark Zuckerberg, Jack Dorsey, Mark Manson, Corbett Barr, Thomas Edison, Elon Musk, Nathan Chan, Henry Ford, or anyone else who simply worked their ass off and started from the bottom.

And you know what?

那是最好的方法。从一无所获开始,抛弃旧的心态和生活方式,将您的时间和精力完全献给将使您成为企业家的事物,拥抱不确定性和风险,并了解辛勤工作的真正含义。

I wanna give you an example.

I’ve been reading Mark Mansonlong before he became popular with his bestselling books. I loved his work and way of thinking back when he was a blogger, before I started my business. His early days, way before he was living the good part of doing what you love and making money from it, looked like this:

之间我想我的储蓄,我每月微薄的ncome, and living frugally, I could sustain myself for at least a year while I built up my new business, which was more than enough time to get on my feet. So it was with confidence that I put in my two weeks notice at the bank. That was June of 2008…

By January of 2009 I was broke. The clients in Boston had dried up. I built a website that nobody visited and wrote a book that nobody read. Working alone sucked. Nobody took my job seriously.

But I never considered giving up, not for a minute. I loved what I was doing. And I loved how I was living. That and I could see that the potential pay off of financial independence and mobility was worth it, no matter how difficult the struggle was. I moved in with my girlfriend the next month who proceeded to support me for much of 2009. In September we broke up. So at age 25, I moved back in with my mother for the remainder of the year.

I refer to 2009 as my “Pain Period” — 16 hour days, sometimes more, for about a year straight. Crash courses in branding, copywriting, sales, product design, search engine optimization, social media, etc. Everything self-taught. I didn’t have any money to hire help, so all web design, product creation, marketing, promotions, advertising, was done by me.’

So, how do you feel about going through that?

如果您害怕这样的现实,请更喜欢您当前的生活方式和工作给您的假安全性的舒适性。这就是您应该保留它的方式。

But if you want to be out of the system andplay by your own rules, and – more importantly – if you have something you’re passionate about and need to turn it into something more as that’s the only way to find meaning, then go for it.

Go for it with all you have. Cause there are few other things in life worth that much of your time and energy.

Be broke for some time. It teaches you lessons. For a start, you realize you don’t need to have most of what you consider necessary. Then, there are ways tosurvive without cash.

If you get over such periods of being broke and still keep hustling on your business, you can get through anything else in life.

To be a visionary, means to be accepting the bad sides of it now, but keep working on what you believe will support you for the rest of your life. If that’s what you gain, a year or two of your life dedicated to hard work and entrepreneurial stress is worth it. In fact, it’s an element you can’t go without if you’re serious about making this lifestyle change.

企业家精神并不是一时兴起。这就是您将成为的事物,这个新现实并不是您会休息的事情。很可能有史以来。

Plus, there are some pretty smart ways to live frugally, and still have an enjoyable daily life while building your online empire.

Final words

A popular saying goes like this: find what you love doing and you’ll never work a day in your life.

You know what? I believe it’s the opposite.

Do what you’re passionate about, turn it into your career, and you’ll be working every day for the rest of your life.

但是,工作在过去几十年中不需要具有负面意义。

Instead, it’s what shapes you, helps you feel productive, lets you make a difference, and gives you the dream lifestyle – which is life on your own terms.

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